Why Men Love Bitches, A Must Read for Women

I remember picking it up once when I was at Fullybooked. The title was catchy which made me reach out for it. Luckily, I have acquired a soft copy. After having read the ebook, I have proven it is not just another self help book.

I used to be a doormat, but I am now a bitch

Basically what I took out of it is this: anything you chase in life runs away. You can keep a man interested if he feels like he never completely has you. You shouldn't make a man the center of your universe. Keep your life exactly as it was before, only add him to it. Do not alter your activities or even give up what you used to do because of him. Why? You would appear clingy and needy. As a result, you would demand him to do same, prioritize you always like he does not have a life for himself. Men do not want to be caged. See him when it's convenient for you. Do not go overboard. He will take you for granted. There is more to life than him and your relationship. Focus on yourself and be able to hold your own. Value yourself the way you want to be valued. It is only then that you will be treated properly. Be strong and independent. Only settle for something that you deserve.

The book totally changed my view in having a relationship (for the better). I have been wrong in handling a relationship in the past. Nevertheless, it does not make me less of a woman. Now I know how to be smart and be a bitch as defined by the author.

Here are a few quotes from “Why Men Love Bitches” and “Why Men Marry Bitches” by Sherry Argov.

• Sometimes a man deliberately won’t call, just to see how you’ll respond.
• The biggest variable between a bitch and a woman who is too nice is fear. The bitch shows that she’s not afraid to be without him.
• If the choice is between her dignity and having a relationship, the bitch will prioritize her dignity above all.
• A man knows which woman will give in to last-min requests.
• Whenever a woman requires too many things from a man, he’ll resent it. Let him give what he wants to give freely; then observe who he is.
• If he makes you feel insecure, let your insecurity be your guide.
• When you appear softer and more feminine, you appeal to his instinct to protect. When you appear more aggressive, you appeal to his instinct to compete.
  
• Men don’t respond to words, they respond to no contact.
  
• A woman looks more secure in a man’s eyes when he can’t pull her away from her life, because she is content with her life.
• When you nag, you become the problem, and he deals with it by tuning you out. But when you don’t nag, he deals with the problem.
• You have to show that you won’t accept mistreatment. Then you will keep his respect.